There have been many situations in my life where I was scared because I didn’t know what my future was going to look like. And when I talk about the future, I don’t mean in ten years. I am talking about a one-year time frame. A few years ago I left my home country of Germany to go travelling. I just received my university degree and wanted to step out of my comfort zone and explore the world. Well, I think I also wanted to prove a point. But let’s talk about that another time.
However, I lived for a few months in Australia as an adventures backpacker. The plan was to go back home after 6 month and study for my master degree back at university. After 5 months I decided to make a quick detour to New Zealand. I mean it’s kind of close right.
What if I just stay?
One week before I was supposed to fly back home I got news from the universities. “We are sorry to inform you…”. And there went my plan. The only plan I had. What was I supposed to do now? Should I just go back and try to find a job? I mean I did just get a bachelor degree so why not. But what if I just stay where I am? There wasn’t really anything waiting for me back home. I mean of course I missed my family and friends but I could go and see them another time. So I stayed.
Luckily I had support from the people I stayed with. The Couchsurfing community is truly wonderful. By the way, that was also the time I met my husband. A Canadian who lived in Christchurch to help rebuild the city after the devastating earthquake in 2011.
Anyway, the decision I made in this moment changed everything. I mean really everything. After that point my life went into a completely different direction. It was scary and exciting at the same time. But mostly scary though. Doubts flooded my head. What would my family and friends say? Was I selfish to leave them? Could I really leave everything behind even though I didn’t know where this was going? And the most important question: Should I leave everything behind because of this guy? Someone I barely knew? And what if this really turns into something serious? All those questions I didn’t have answers to. But did I really need them?
Imagine you would know everything your future is holding for you
Fact is, you can’t figure out your whole life at once and why would you? I mean… we want to right? I know I always do. And my head is spinning every time I try. But imagine you would know everything your future is holding for you. I mean really think about it! You would know if you are going to find your true love or if you won’t. Are you going to land your dream job eventually? Which people will be joining you on your way and who do you have to say goodbye to?
The more I think about it the least I want to know. Would you even try to live the life you want if you would know everything already? Imagine how many experiences you would miss out on. People sometimes underestimate how valuable experiences are. They give you confidence in yourself and define who you really are.
And even though your plan sometimes doesn’t work out, which can always happen, doesn’t mean you failed. It means it wasn’t meant to be. You would be surprised how often something wonderful happens when you least expect it. So just keep going. Face the unknown. Make a decision and see where it leads. Be spontaneous, be brave and be you.
Life is about the experiences. Everything is possible.
Be spontaneous. Be brave. Be happy.